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This week’s topics were very interesting one was the “Uncertainty Reduction Theory” in which both persons aim in a conversation is to decrease that awkwardness between them conversing and finding some common thing to talk about. Another theory that was discussed was the “Social Exchange Theory” which is weighing the “costs” and “rewards” of a person’s relationship with someone. Honestly, I really find our Communication class very interesting and also, sorry if I always come in late in class. When my 9:30-10:20 class ends in Sec C I always pass by the school chapel before going to the Social Sciences Building.

Anyway, on topic, first off is the Uncertainty Reduction Theory. I’m not a great conversationalist especially when meeting new people. Of course there’s the usual “What’s your name?”, “What’s your course”, “Where are you from”, etc … which are all cliché’s in a “meeting-someone-new conversation”. But after all those questions, what happens next? That’s where the Uncertainty Reduction Theory comes in, we try to find a topic in which the both of us (the speaker and the one being talked to) have common ground thus advancing their conversation. Usually, there’s just this awkward silence after all those intro questions.

Now, I’m going to share a story regarding Uncertainty Reduction Theory …
Since elementary I had been shy when talking to girls especially if I have a crush on that girl. Some might be wondering how I got in a “relationship” back then or to put it during those times an “M.U” or Mutual Understanding, what I did back then was to do everything online; Friendster which was still popular back then and also Yahoo Messenger. I know, it’s really crappy right? Oh and also, I also used text messaging. I find it easier for me to express myself through those things because when you say something there’s no way to see the other person’s reaction to what you just said. I was afraid of rejection back then, I was afraid that I might say something that I might upset the person. In other words, there was always this HUGE UNCERTAINTY that lingered with me to whoever girl I talked to. After the third girl left me I thought to myself “Enough of love”. I didn’t know back then that what I was feeling wasn’t love. It was just some mere pre-adolescent-feeling-for-the-opposite-sex.

Summer came, it was before senior year. As part of the student council I was one of the organizers and group facilitators in our annual school “Leadership Training Program”. I was still devastated at the breakup that happened before summer and that girl who broke up with me was an attendee of the event, so even if I didn’t want to … I was going to see her. Anyway, I met another girl in the said event, we were just friends during the 3-day seminar but I found myself slowly falling for her. When that happened I was afraid of the possibility of another girl leaving me. I later told her about what I was feeling about her; surprisingly I also found out that she felt the same for me. I just told you how I met the girl of my dreams. It has been almost two and a half years that I know her and we’ve been together for more than a year. Here’s where the Social Exchange Theory comes into play. Earlier on in the relationship we usually had disagreements, misunderstandings, and all those usual stuff that couples go through. During those times I find myself weighing out the Pros and Cons of my relationship, I thought of things like "Is she the one?", "Am I ready for this?", "Is this what I really want?", "What happens if this girl leaves me too?".  In the end I decided that I will stick to it and find out for myself what will happen in the end. These theories play an important role in the bonds that we form with other people who we may not know, they maybe our future wife, husband, business partner … etc.

Here’s the end of my blog entry. I thank you for your time reading it. See you! :)

P.S

Here's a pic of us about 2 years ago. (Btw, regarding the "Hair Wax" blog entry of mine last week. Do compare. haha.)




And this was just taken last March.